Friendship and bullying

Friends matter a lot in your teens, and friendships can change fast at this age. Drifting apart from a friend hurts, but it does happen. Interests shift and new people come along.

• You can be yourself around her.
• Your feelings are taken seriously.
• You may fall out, but you talk and make up.
• She doesn't put you down or spread your secrets.
• She respects it when you say no.

Someone who always criticises you, cuts you off from others or pushes you into doing what they want isn't a good friend. You are allowed to step away.

Bullying is when someone hurts another person on purpose, again and again. It can be:

• Hitting, pushing or taking your things
• Insults, nasty nicknames or mocking
• Leaving you out or spreading rumours
• Nasty messages or sharing photos online

• It isn't your fault. Your looks, family or marks aren't the reason.
• Stay calm if you can, and walk away. Don't hit back.
• Stay close to friends.
• Write down what happens and save screenshots of messages.
• Block and report online.
• Tell an adult you trust, such as a parent, teacher or school psychologist. If one person doesn't help, tell another.

That isn't telling tales. It is protecting yourself.

Don't join in, laugh or share the video. Go and stand by them, and tell an adult. One person stepping in can change a lot.